Thursday, February 7, 2013


Prayer, Listening and Finding Intimacy with God

"What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us."
- A.W. Tozer

How is it that we find prayer so difficult?  For most of my life I vacillated between seeing prayer as a dutiful obligation (feeling guilty when I wasn't doing my part) to a welcome respite from a world that was too much to bear at times.  It has only been in the later stages of my life that I have come to see prayer as the singularly most significant avenue to experiencing the intimacy of knowing God, and being known by God.  It is also where I will find the healing and change I desperately desire.  Prayer, quite simply, is a conversation with the One we love and who loves us.

God desires our hearts and full attention.  The Scriptures often refer to God's pursuit of us as a lover to a wayward spouse.  In prayer we open ourselves to listening to His voice, being directed by His thoughts and being touched by His love.  Prayer then is the avenue in which we are transformed.  In prayer we begin to think God's thoughts, to desire what He desires, to love the things He loves.  If we are unwilling to change, we will usually find that we quickly abandon the discipline of prayer.

As some conversations may be more of a monologue than a dialogue, so in our communion with God we may rush into His presence talking at Him rather than with Him.  The key element in prayer is listening with the heart and mind.  Henri Nouwen explains, "If prayer were just an intelligent exercise of our mind we would soon become stranded in fruitless and trivial inner debates with God.  If, on the other hand, prayer would involve only our heart, we might soon think that good prayers consist in good feelings.  But the prayer of the heart in the most profound sense unites mind and heart in the intimacy of the divine love." (Reaching Out, p. 146)  In prayer there is a tender balance between listening and speaking.

But what keeps us from entering into this place of intimacy with our Creator?

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Update on Our Trip to Egypt


As you have seen from the news, Egypt is experiencing a time of historic spiritual and political upheaval.  Since the ousting of President Mubarak, Egypt has been searching to find its way towards some level of a parliamentary run government in light of a powerful controlling military.  It appears the Muslim Brotherhood, a mainstream Islamist party, has gained a significant place in the new parliament raising deep concerns among Christians for their future and safety. 

Because of the political chaos, occurring there has been more violence occurring towards Christians than ever before.  Egypt has had more martyrs in this last year than in the entire history of the church in that country.  The Pew Forum on Religion & Public Life ranks Egypt as the fifth-worst county in the world for religious freedom.  Egypt is also included among the 12 worst countries in the world in terms of violence against religious minorities, and specifically in terms of social hostilities against Christians.  It is not uncommon for women to be abducted from their homes and forced to convert to Islam.  Coptic churches promised in the past protection by the military from Muslim extremists are now being abandoned and told to protect themselves.  For example, in the last year a 17-year-old Coptic Christian boy was ordered by his teacher to take off the cross he was wearing.  When he refused, the teacher flew into a rage and started choking the teen.  The other students joined in beating him.  He died shortly afterwards and the only recourse was the teacher was put on suspension from her position and there was no further investigation of the incident. 

It is in this cultural backdrop that we were involved in two ministry opportunities while we were in Egypt.  The first one was in Menye, Egypt, a small poor industrial town in upper Egypt.  There is a believer there named Viola who has worked with NGO’s to bring through U.S. government grants clean water to Menye.  Now her focus is to bring healing and hope to women who have been abused. About 90% of women in Egypt have been victims of abuse.  The average man, if asked of what a woman’s role is, would unashamedly reply that a woman is only for sex/pleasure and children.   I was asked to be the speaker for a monthly gathering Viola organizes in which she goes door to door in the shops in Menye and invites women to come to a luncheon on a boat on the Nile where there is a speaker and music.  This month the focus was on abuse and their identity in Christ.  In a space that would comfortably fit 60 people -  250 Muslim, Evangelical and Coptic Christian children and women from ages 8-mid 40’s, came. 

As I started to speak, I looked across the room and saw the defended and guarded expression that is often the case of women that have been abused.  About a third of the way through my talk I sensed the Spirit of God moving across the room and began to see tears start to roll down the cheeks of some of the women and others smile back at me as I smiled at them.  In a country where showing emotion equates with vulnerability, it was no small thing to see expression of heartache being expressed in the faces of these women.  Afterwards a number of young women came up and asked for prayer.

The second ministry we were involved in was to provide teaching and encouragement to the leadership of Mama Maggie’s Stephen’s Children – a ministry to the poorest of poor children and families in Cairo's rancid garbage slums and severely impoverished communities in rural Upper Egypt.  Maggie Groban or as she is affectionately called, Mama Maggie was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize three different times for her work in addressing the needs of the neglected and impoverished children of the garbage slums and other places of poverty in Egypt.  Stephen's Children touches more than 30,000 families through ministries that enlist almost 1,500 workers and volunteers.  The children there are malnourished emotionally, physically and spiritually.  They provide home care, education, camps, and vocational training.  The home care workers are assigned a child in need and journey with a child and his/her family from 10-15 years.  They teach the children the Scriptures, model the love of Christ to him/her and assist in any needs the family might have. 

As Ray and I got to know the leadership staff and hear of their challenges and struggles, we were emotionally undone by the level of devotion to Christ that we saw in each of the staff we met.  They work in horrific conditions, traveling long distances from their homes to the places where the children reside, putting their own welfare and safety at risk daily for the sake of being able to bring Christ’s hope and love to these precious children. We sensed their deep fatigue and weariness yet never heard anyone complain but spoke about their love for the children and families they ministered to.

Someone told us that what happens in Egypt tends to become a domino effect in the rest of the world.  As well as what God is doing spiritually in Egypt is a testimony to the rest of the world. I believe we must pay attention to what God is doing in Egypt.  Our fellow believers are witnessing to the rest of the world what a life wholly dedicated to Christ looks like.  Their courage, sacrifice, faithfulness, and boldness is a testimony to us in the United States of what a life of holiness really looks like. 

Thank you for your support – with your prayers and financial resources to allow us to receive such a profound experience and to bring God’s word of encouragement to our brothers and sisters in Christ in Egypt.  We will be forever thankful that we were able to meet believers that so clearly evidenced their love for Christ and radiated his presence in a magnificent way.  Because of this, we are asking ourselves the question as to how we might honor Christ more fully in our own lives and show forth his glory in an intentional way.  We would love to bring a group of believers back with us perhaps in the fall to take the next step in training and resourcing with the people we met.  We are trusting God to confirm if this is what he would like us to do. 

I want to close with the verse from Revelation 12:11 that I believe aptly describes the believers in Egypt. 
“They overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.”  May this be found true for each one of us as well.  

Egypt Pictures


Pictures from Egypt


Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Global Leadership Summit 2011 - Cairo, Egypt

At the end of this month, Ray and I will be traveling to Egypt as a part of a volunteer ministry team from WePartner (www.wepartner.org) and the Willow Creek Association (www.willowcreek.comto learn, encourage and serve fellow Egyptian Christians in Cairo.

During the first part of the trip, we will doing some training for an organization that "offers hope and transformation for Christian children and families living in Cairos' fetid garbage slums" (http://www.stephenschildren.org/team.php).  Mama Maggie Groban is the founder and considered by many to be the Mother Teresa of Egypt for her profound and most important work among the poor in Cairo.

Another part of our trip will be to provide two marriage workshops in the evening at Kasr el-Dobarah Evangelical Church (KDC). The first evening we will be talking about Surviving the Storms of Life While Still Staying Married and the second evening From Fear to Love - Overcoming Obstacles to Healthy Relationships.   We hope to provide hope and encouragement to our fellow brothers and sisters that are in such turbulent and monumental times. In addition, I may be doing some other teaching for children and women who have been abused.  Ray will also be doing a workshop for pastors on counseling skills.   

The second part of the trip will be supporting the 2nd Global Leadership Summit with our host church, Kasr el-Dobarah Evangelical Church (KDC) in downtown Cairo (www.willowcreekglobalsummit.com/i_egypt.asp).    During the Summit we have been asked to meet with, pray, and encourage leaders individually in their walk with Christ.

While we count this overseas ministry experience a privilege, we are mindful that this endeavor can only happen by prayerful preparation and support.  It is an incredible honor to be given the opportunity to serve and encourage our fellow brothers and sisters that are encountering phenomenal obstacles in this part of the world. Please pray for us as we prepare for and take part in this journey.

Nancy

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Welcome!


For more than thirty years Ray and Nancy have been able to counsel those seeking to grow in their ability to love more purely. This site is a place to organize their efforts, events, publications, and ideas. It's a place to connect with you so please leave comments as they would love to hear from you!

Thank you for stopping by, for joining this journey away from fear and towards love, and for opening your hearts to God's leading in your life.

Ray and Nancy